God is all I need....who needs a man/woman

From Fred Hammonds status
"Posses this question, if Adam in his perfect unfallin state was the 1rst and closest human to GOD ever, When GOD saw Adam alone why didn't HE just tell Adam I the LORD am all you need? Why did HE give him a Woman? Why do we as Christians say when it comes to seeking marital relationships, all we need is GOD, when GOD said and did something different? Hit the wall.."

My response...

People say that, when they do not fully understand God's will. It sounds good to say, "God is all I need" and "Jesus is my husband"....but that is not God's perfect will....God designed us to be interdependent....man and wife. It is no mistake that we compliment each other. I tell people often that there is significance in the fact that God used the rib to make women....part of the protection for man's heart. It was God's intent for woman to have a direction connection to man's heart, and vice versa. The trouble is, so many women (and I focus on women, only because they are typically the ones saying these phrases), have been hurt by men.....and men hurt by women. In their eyes, that means they don't need a mate, or will never fully trust their mate. This is not God's will.

Look at the first sin...First, Eve made the mistake because she listened to the voice of a sly serpent over God's. I mean these people were not just in God's presence, like I'm in a high time in service "God's Presence". I am talking as close as any man/women has been, yet a snakes voice was louder. Alone comes Adam, and he listen's not to the servant, not to God, but to the woman God gave him.....and here is my point. God intended for woman to be able to speak to man. I believe God knew how stubborn we can be, goal oriented we can be, busy we can be, so he gave a soft voice that we would hear....in times we were not even listening to God. The problem is not in Adam listening to Eve....the problem is that Eve was out of place, and Adam at the same time.

The rest is history.

A Boy Singing to his little sister..... (unknown author)

A Boy Singing to his little sister.....

You are My Sunshine, My only Sunshine'

(Be prepared to get watery eyes!)

Like any good mother, when Karen found out that another baby was on the
way, she did what she could to help her
3-year-old son, Michael, prepare
for a new sibling.


They found out that the new baby was going be a girl, and day after day,
night after night, Michael sang to his sister in mommy's tummy.

He was building a bond of love with his little sister before he even met her.

The pregnancy progressed normally for Karen, an active member of the
Panther Creek United Methodist Church

in Morristown , Tennessee

In time, the labor pains came. Soon it was every five minutes, every
three, every minute. But serious complications arose during delivery and
Karen found herself in hours of labor.

Would a C-section be required?
Finally, after a long struggle, Michael's
little sister was born.
But she was in very serious condition.

With a siren howling in the night, the ambulance rushed the infant to
the neonatal intensive care unit at
St. Mary's Hospital, Knoxville ,
Tennessee . The days inched by.
The little girl got worse.
The pediatrician had to tell the parents
there is very little hope.
Be prepared for the worst.

Karen and her husband contacted a local cemetery about a burial plot.
They had fixed up a special room in their house for their new baby but
now they found themselves having to plan for a funeral.
Michael, however, kept begging his parents to let him see his sister..
I want to sing to her, he kept saying.

Week two in intensive care looked as if a funeral would come before the
week was over.

Michael kept nagging about singing to his sister, but kids are never
allowed in Intensive Care.
Karen decided to take Michael
whether they liked it or not..

If he didn't see his sister right then,
he may never see her alive..
She dressed him in an oversized scrub suit and marched him into ICU.
He looked like a walking laundry basket.


The head nurse recognized him as a child and bellowed, 'Get that kid out of here now. No children are allowed.'
The mother rose up strong in Karen,
and the usually mild-mannered lady
glared steel-eyed right into
the head nurse's face, her lips a firm line.
'He is not leaving until he sings to his sister' she stated.

Then Karen towed Michael to his
sister's bedside.

He gazed at the tiny infant losing
the battle to live.

After a moment, he began to sing.
In the pure-hearted voice of a 3-year-old, Michael sang:

'You are my sunshine, my only sunshine,
you make me happy when skies are gray.'
Instantly the baby girl seemed to respond. The pulse rate began to calm down
and become steady.

'Keep on singing, Michael,' encouraged Karen with tears in her eyes.

'You never know, dear, how much I love you, please don't take my sunshine away...'
As Michael sang to his sister, the baby's ragged, strained breathing became as smooth as a kitten's purr
'Keep on singing, sweetheart.'

'The other night, dear, as I lay sleeping, I dreamed I held you in my arms'
Michael's little sister began to relax as rest, healing rest, seemed to sweep over her.

'Keep on singing, Michael.'
Tears had now conquered the face of the bossy head nurse. Karen glowed.

'You are my sunshine, my only sunshine. Please don't take my sunshine away.'

The next day...the very next day the little girl was well enough to go home

Woman's Day Magazine called it
The Miracle of a Brother's Song.

The medical staff just called it a miracle.

Karen called it a miracle of God's love..

NEVER GIVE UP ON THE PEOPLE
YOU LOVE.

LOVE IS SO INCREDIBLY POWERFUL.

Life is good.

Have a Wonderful Day!

Kirk Franklin - Hide Me Lyrics

Hide Me lyrics
[Verse 1:]
I know You see us
I know you hear us
And You fill us when we pray
You understand us, See deep inside us
Translate tears and take them away
I'm a be honest, There are times
Your ways and method's, I don't understand
It seems so far, Tell me who You are
I know your touch, but can't see Your plan.
I'm lost in this thing called life,
Left to me now feels right
It's Your turn now, I wanna be where you are

[Refr:]
Hide me
Let me live behind You
Cause I need
Shelter from the rain
Remind me
The only way my faith can grow
Is when You let Your winds blow
You're making me stronger now, so rain,
Don't go away
Don't go away

[Verse 2:]
I'd admit
It'd be nice
To have some light shine down on me
Especially,
When, Lord I shall be, You don't always let me see
It ain't easy,
But I'm trying hard to get out of Your way
To believe
That what You say
That my change begins today.
The road includes some pain,

And to grow you need some rain
And when it falls, I wanna be where You are

[Refr.]

[Bridge:]
Cause there's some much I see
Needs to grow inside of me
In the fire I realize
Before I live, I have to die
Please believe me when I say
I can't waste another day
It's so easy to complain
But complain don't make a change
Not the victim anymore
All the things God has in store
If I ain't ready don't let the rain
Go away
Don't go away

[Refr.:]
Hide me
Cause I need
Remind me
The only way my faith can grow
Is when You let Your winds blow
You're making me stronger now

You're making me stronger now [x7]
You made me stronger now [x4]

[x2:]
He made me stronger now
She made me stronger now
They made me stronger now [x2]

You made me stronger now [x8]

A Woman's Worth

Comments welcome:


Ben Coleman Jr Listening to Alicia Keys....Guys, you need to listen to "A Woman's Worth"....we'll learn together.Thu 7:39pm · via TweetDeck · Comment · LikeUnlike · Show Feedback (16)Hide Feedback (16)

You, Beulah Davis, Michael L. Hewlett, Terah Tate Williams and 5 others like this. Beulah Davis, Michael L. Hewlett, Terah Tate Williams and 5 others like this.

Fred Stewart at 8:47am April 18
in huys defense she says a REAL woman knows a real man when she see's one...hmmmmmmmm

Ben Coleman Jr at 8:51am April 18
Fist bump to the engineer guy. Just told someone the other day we do not know each other's worth, sometimes because we get caught up in our own worth.

Fred Stewart at 8:58am April 18
im i-n-d-e-p-e-n-d-e-n-t lol i hear more women say that than a little bit if u get to independent u'll spend ur life a-l-o-n-e Ben Coleman Jr at 9:02am April 18
Thanks, for s-p-e-l-l-i-n-g that out for us, Fred. That will be a blog for me one day soon...the affect of the absence of males in relationships on the over-independace of ladies. This single thing is really jacking up some good ladies, and in some case keeping them single longer than they should be. Ok. You talked me into it....of I go to blog.

Fred Stewart at 9:16am April 18
lets be honest its hard to be a good christian when ur single... u have "desires" and "wants" so if ur a good christian what are u doing to satisfy a and b.... i hear people sayin abstinence but 2 be real if u have already tasted "blood" ur gonna wanna do it again.... and like i say i hear people say that but in my unsaved days i could talk a "... Read Moresaved" woman into goin... bible talkin couldn't beat her speakin in tongue choir member and then afterward blame it on the devil???? hmmmm.... well and guys the same way..... what do u do???? its cute to be single but is it the will of God and if it is his will for u to be single where are kids commin from???? and if u accepted christ after the kids why the late night phone calls???? this can get real deep being a musician in the church all of my life ive seen alot of inependent christian women fall... why???? because it wasnt meant for u to be i-n-d-e-p-e-n-d-e-n-t

Ben Coleman Jr at 9:33am April 18
You are feeding my blog....I will address the indepedence first. The bible never speaks of our independence. When Christ sent the disciples out on the missionary trip, he sent them two by two. Noah's animals...twos. Adam and Eve. Moses and Joshua. Indepedence...especially among church, and black ladies...is a trap from Satan. He says, you ... Read Morehave had bad experiences with men, so take the "easy" road...do it by yourself. Not only are they excluding men, they are exerting indepence from God....that's double trouble.

Why do we fall into temptation? A couple reasons...I am currently mixing sound for a play called "Temptations" (http://gdavisplays.com - shameless plug). Garrett has written a great play on why we cheat. One reason is we are not honest. The church spends so much energy avoiding the topic of sex, we fall into it. Its like saying...I know there are wholes out there, but I am gonna close my eyes and pray that I do not fall in them. Physical desire.... Ben Coleman Jr at 9:35am April 18
....is a very real thing. We do not respect it, so it takes advantage of us. If we would begin to see the obvious, and then allow God to help us manage it...we'll quit falling so quick.

Ants - Are you Drawing Any?

Talk about transparent....folks...the ants are back in the house. Now, for the spiritual folks...stick with me....I'm goin somewhere. It is funny to me now, but the last time was not so funny. We started seeing ants in the kitchen. What we found out was my 3 boys had dropped food in corners we did not know we had.

What you are you saying, Ben. Where is God in this. I am glad you asked. In my quest to get rid of these aggrevating critters, I learn about their behaviours....and National Geographic special, right in my home. Ants are one of the most consistent critters. I want to hit on some significant things I learned about them.

They are consistent.....You could pretty much draw a line where the ants travel. Even though they can't see it, they follow the same path. To get to the source, you have to follow the path they have taken. This is a critical thing, we often miss in ministering to others.

They are resilient (I hope that spelling is right). I tried all kinds of bug killers on those critters, and they just kept coming back. This is the amazing thing about people. Sometimes, even the worst of things does not stop us from going after what we THINK is good for us. (maybe that will be another blog)

They seek after one thing....food. When my 5 year old announced to me that there were ants in the den, this time, I said something to him. That means there is food somewhere. Only someone with small children can understand this part. Kids are not clean....lol...But my point is the line that ants follow goes from point A to point B. A, being their origin...B, being the food source. Like I said....draw a line. Ants do not just wonder around through their lives. They are always in search of food...as are God's children. Now, I need to clarify something here. Who are God's children? Sinners, and saints (who are just sinners saved by Grace). We are all looking for something to eat, and are drawn to eat. Are you drawing them?

No, I am not saying God's children are aggrevating little critters...lol...I am saying that to draw them, we must know them....know their habits. How do we learn them? I think this is one way, that we sometimes miss God speaking...his Creation. The same laws that apply for these ants, are duplicated in us....just at differing levels. The distinct difference is we have choice.

If you have accepted Christ, you have 3 choices to make today. One, choose to get to know his people, before you begin to judge them. Two, choose to be more than you are right now...choose to press toward the mark, and not be content with where you are. Three, choose to live in such a way that your light....your food source draws God's people. People ought to be so overwhelmed with the Christ they see in you, that they will let nothing keep them away. Coming off Easter, christians love to pick on the people that only come once a year. I want to give you something to ponder.....what do we do to draw them?

If you have not accepted Christ, you have one choice to make today. Choose to move towards the greatest food source. Choose to drink from a fountain of living waters, that will never run dry. Choose to make Jesus your source.

Love Vs Sex

A teenage girl about 17 had gone to visit some friends one evening and time passed quickly as each shared their various experiences of the past year.

She ended up staying longer than planned, and had to walk home alone. She wasn't afraid because it was a small town and she lived only a few blocks away.

As she walked along under the tall elm trees, Diane asked God to keep her safe from harm and danger.

When she reached the alley, which was a short cut to her house, she decided to take it.

However, halfway down the alley she noticed a man standing at the end as though he were waiting for her.

She became uneasy and began to pray, asking for God's protection.

Instantly a comforting feeling of quietness and security wrapped round her, she felt as though someone was walking with her.

When she reached the end of the alley, she walked right past the man and arrived home safely.

The following day, she read in the newspaper that a young girl had been raped in the same alley just twenty minutes after she had been there.

Feeling overwhelmed by this tragedy and the fact that it could have been her, she began to weep.

Thanking the Lord for her safety and to help this young woman, she decided to go to the police station.

She felt she could recognize the man, so she told them her story.

The police asked her if she would be willing to look at a lineup to see if she could identify him.

She agreed and immediately pointed out the man she had seen in the alley the night before.

When the man was told he had been identified, he immediately broke down and confessed.

The officer thanked Diane for her bravery and asked if there was anything they could do for her.

She asked if they would ask the man one question.

Diane was curious as to why he had not attacked her.

When the policeman asked him, he answered, "Because she wasn't alone. She had two tall men walking on either side of her."

Amazingly, whether you believe or not, you're never alone. Did you know that 98% of teenagers will not stand up for God?

Repost this as Love vs. Sex if you truly believe in God.


PS: God is always there in your heart and loves you no matter what.....and if you stand up 4 him he will stand up for you.

I bet 93% of the people that read this wont repost it.


I read this and reposted it.
Well I bet you read this note because of the title..didn't you?

by Jennifer Pickett

Let Patience Have Its Perfect Work

LA Mass Choir
"That's When He Blessed Me"

VERSE 1
My life was torn beyond repair
I felt so alone, seemed no one cared
You came along, gave me a song
To ease the pain and erase the straing

BRIDGE
You could have left me standing there
With no one, no one to care
But You promised me You'd be there on time
And You did just what You said

VERSE 2
Against all odds, I made the choice
To give You my life, now I rejoice
You answered my prayers not a moment to soon
Your word I embraced, my sins you erased

BRIDGE

CHORUS
That's when You bless me
That's when You bless me
(Lord, You brought me through, now I'm brand new)

Yes
That's when You bless me
That's when You bless me
(Lord, You promised me You would hear my plea)
And You did just what You said.

"But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing." James 1:4



Ok. I'm gonna be real transparent (getting naked for Christ....hint hint....read my blogs on the subject) on this one. I do not like to wait on things. If I am riding down highway 52 in the morning, and one lane is moving slower than the other, I will change lanes. If I pull up to the fancy new McDonalds on MLK and one line is backed, Ben is in the other one. If my kids are taking too long to get out the car, Ben is saying "Come one" (I bet I have said that 2543 times since being a father). If my computer get's slow, I'm tryin to figure out why. If someone is taking to long to change, I'm helping them out. If what God has promised me is not here, I'm goin to look for it.

What's the problem here? His ways are not our ways, His thoughts not our thoughts. Right this moment I am dealing with a vehicle situation that I thought was resolved....only to find out I have to wait a while longer. YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW UPSET THAT MADE ME...Ben Coleman Jr.....the guy who can't wait for a slow printer to print. What is God saying in this...Ben, you gotta wait. So today, when I was delayed, I got made...then I said "God I trust you....you know what's best"

I am reminded of the tragic events of the Twin Towers in NYC. So much attention was paid to all the people who lost their lives. My heart goes out to each of the families that experience loss. But, even in the midst of tragedy, God was speaking. After the event, stories began to surface about people that were not killed.....because they were late getting to work. Wow. imagine the frustration of the person who was having car trouble and was afraid they were gonna lose their job that day for being lat. What God is showing me is that the steps of a good man are ordered by Him. I spend so much time trying to speed things up, that I forget that there could be a reason I am "late".

Since I have become social, I have talked to so many people. There is a common theme....waiting. People are waiting for a spouse, job, car, healing...so many things. A common mistake I have made, and have seen others make, is to take the matters in their own hands. You know what usually happens when you do that. So I am doing like Kirk Franklin's Fight of My Life Track......I am letting go and letting God. "I give up." Ever said that? Well good, because that means it is now in God's hands. And that is when he'll bless you.